“I’m no better or different from you; I just have the tools and strategies to deal with life’s curve balls and know how to pull myself out faster. I can teach you how.”     

 I know what it’s like to feel betrayed, abandoned, and utterly alone. I also know what it takes to find your way back to love, to joy, to yourself. My journey has shaped who I am today: a relationship coach and marriage expert on a mission to help couples and individuals heal, forgive, and create beautiful, lasting love.

Reflecting On My Relationship

I was young and dumb when I met my first husband. We fell hard and fast, and despite the red flags starting with meeting his parents, I convinced myself he was a good match. I had just lost my father a few months back, and felt an emptiness in my life that I wanted to fill. But once the honeymoon was over, he quickly changed, and I felt more alone than ever.

I was ashamed to admit to my family and friends that my marriage wasn’t turning out to be what I had hoped. I pretended that everything was fine, but inside, I was unraveling. I became angry, bitter, and resentful, and someone I didn’t recognize. Desperately searching for answers, we even tried therapy, but nothing helped.

Then one day, I found out about a personal development seminar, and convinced him to attend the transformation weekend with me, convinced that he would finally wake up and become the man he had promised me all along. Instead, I discovered something profound: it wasn’t about him—it was about me. I realized how much I had been blaming, judging, and withholding love. I had been so afraid of being alone because, deep down, I believed I was unworthy and unloved.

It was the rude awakening I needed. 

I finally saw my childhood trauma, my fears, and my defensive behaviour patterns. I took responsibility, let go, and chose to set us both free. The truth I uncovered next would take me even deeper: all my trust issues and feelings of being unloved stemmed from a moment that broke my heart when I was just a little girl…

I was nine years old when my father left. As my dad got ready to leave, my said, “Kids, your dad is leaving; doesn’t love us anymore.” I watched him walk down our front steps, brown suitcases in hand. I stood at the window shocked, confused, and sobbing, watching him disappear into a car I didn’t recognize. The man I adored and who was supposed to protect me—was gone.

My dad had an affair with my mom’s friend and got her pregnant, and in that moment, they chose to separate. The next few years were a blur. I didn’t know how to be around my dad anymore. During that time, my mom spent a lot of time at church praying. 

But then, something miraculous happened: my father came home. Sick and vulnerable, he asked for forgiveness. And my mother, in an extraordinary act of love and faith, forgave him. She chose love over resentment. She chose family over anger and ego. And in doing so, she showed me the power of forgiveness.

That was the best choice.

That choice saved my family. My dad was a better father and husband, and he began to go to church every day with my mom. 

Years later, when my dad passed away, we were by his side, loving him through his final moments. Because of forgiveness, we found our way back to love. That experience taught me this truth:

Love and happiness are not possible without forgiveness.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing the past; it means releasing its hold on you. It means choosing peace over pain and connection over conflict. It starts with forgiving yourself, loving yourself, and doing the inner work to heal.

Doing the inner work and healing on myself has changed my life completely. It has given me the courage to choose love, joy, and peace, and the mental shift I needed to stop playing victim to the abuse I had experienced throughout my life. It also brought me to my life’s purpose; to help others let go of fear, shame, and generational trauma so they can experience the love and joy they deserve. I know firsthand that when you heal, you don’t just change your life; you transform your family, your legacy, and generations to come.

Today, I am living proof of what’s possible. For the past 18 years, I have been married to my best friend and greatest teacher, Mike. Our marriage is nothing short of extraordinary;  it is fun, easy, passionate, playful, deeply intimate, and sweet. Mike has been my rock, my best friend, and my inspiration. Together, we’ve built a life full of joy, trust, and connection, and I wake up every day grateful for the love we share. 

I want this for you.

I want every person on this planet to experience a love that feels safe, joyful, and alive. Whether your marriage feels broken, your trust shattered, or your heart heavy with past hurts, I want you to know this:

It’s never too late to heal. It’s never too late to love again.

My passion is to guide you to rediscover yourself, reconnect with your partner, and build a relationship that feels extraordinary—just like the one I have with Mike. If I could find my way back to love, so can you. And I’ve got your back every step of the way.