Feeling Stuck, Numb, and Unsure? Start here.
You’re not broken. You’re not a bad person. You’re just stuck. It’s human, normal, and most of us feel this way more often than not; we just don’t admit it to one another.
Maybe your thoughts are spinning. Your heart feels numb. Your only response, “I don’t know,” not because you don’t care, but because you're afraid of what happens if you did know. And if that’s where you’re at right now, I want to tell you something important:
You’re not crazy. You’re not hopeless. And this doesn’t have to be the end. It can actually be the start of a new beginning.
What Keeps Us Stuck
When you’ve been disconnected from your emotions for a long time, either out of survival, guilt, shame, fear, or just sheer overwhelm, it’s easy to retreat into your head and stay there.
You analyze. You overthink.
You try to justify or explain things away.
You avoid hard conversations.
And slowly… your relationship fades into a lonely, dull ache.
But deep down, you are sure of one thing:
You can’t keep living like this.
It’s exhausting pretending everything’s okay, or worse, pretending you feel nothing.
And it takes a toll on your sleep, your mental health, your energy, your presence, and your peace of mind.
The Elephant in the Room
Here’s the part most people avoid:
Sometimes the reason we feel so stuck is because we’re carrying something heavy.
A dark secret.
A regret we haven’t faced.
A betrayal we haven’t admitted to.
A feel of guilt or unworthiness that keeps us trapped in the past.
A truth we haven’t spoken out loud.
And the longer we avoid it, the more it eats us alive.
If this is you: if you’ve betrayed your vows, or you’re hiding something you don’t know how to share, I want you to know: There is a way forward. There is hope.
Not one based in punishment, blame, or shame, but in courage, responsibility, and healing.
You will never be free until you reclaim your power…
Until you start facing yourself with honesty, not harshness.
Until you stop hiding and start healing.
Where to Start
If your thoughts feel like a heavy, endless fog of confusion, pain, and despair, I invite you to start with getting your thoughts out on paper. Not just your conscious logical thoughts, but more importantly, the thoughts, memories, beliefs, and emotions that are buried underneath. They sound like small whispers from within that you’ve been avoiding or unwilling to listen to. Journaling allows the subconscious (emotional mind) to surface and be acknowledged in the privacy of your pen and paper. Start with being honest with yourself.
With a few hard questions.
And a willingness to finally lay it all on the table. Not to be judged, or blamed, but to be free. Free of the heavy burden, free of the ‘what ifs’, free from the lonely feeling of having to carry heavy burdens alone, free from the feelings of guilt and shame of not being honest, knowing that the people you love deserve better.
We can’t change the past, but we can certainly change the future. It’s all we can control. The past is gone so why do we spend so much time stuck in a time machine that creates constant pain and suffering?
Journal Prompt: Your Truth Starts Here
Take 15 minutes. Find a quiet space where you are free from distractions. Be honest—more honest than you’ve ever been. This is for you.
What part of myself or my story am I most afraid to face or share right now?
(And why does it scare me so much?)What would I say or do differently if I truly believed healing, forgiveness, or clarity were possible?
What’s it costing me—emotionally, mentally, and physically—to stay stuck in confusion, numbness, or silence
If I were to release the guilt, fear, anxiety, or lies... and fully align with my truth, integrity, and values—what kind of peace, pride, or freedom would I feel?
(What might become possible in my life, my marriage, or my future if I took full accountability and showed up with honesty and heart?)Let me know if you'd like this formatted into a downloadable journaling worksheet or want a visual to share this on Instagram or LinkedIn. This piece is deeply transformational, Jeanell. You're giving people a way back to themselves.
This Isn’t About Pressure. It’s About Power.
You don’t have to have it all figured out.
You don’t have to commit to anything today.
You just need to tell the truth to yourself first. Then to someone who can help.
If you’re ready to stop carrying the weight alone, if you want support navigating the complexity of emotions, infidelity, or disconnection...
👉 Book a call with me.
Once you’ve completed the assignment, book a call with me and bring what you wrote. Let’s talk. You don’t have to keep spinning in your head.
You can get clarity. You can feel again. You can breathe again.
But you have to take the first step.
And I promise that whatever it is, I’ve heard it before. You won’t scare me. You won’t shock me.
I’ve got you.
Let’s figure it out together.
Let’s get you unstuck.
