Meeting with so many different couples every week, they all seem to have a lot in common. The symptoms may vary but the underlying issues remain to be the same so I thought to share some of them.

Think about children. We love them, not because they do anything for us. No, we love them because we love them. What if we took that same idea and attitude towards our partner? “But s/he’s not a child. Children are different.” Well, consider we all have our 5 year old very much alive within us; wanting to play, to belong, feels lonely, and can often have temper tantrums and do stupid things.

When I give interviews, I often get asked, “How and why did you become a coach?” so I thought I would share with you all how I got to be where I am. Like many people, my story starts out with me working in a totally different industry. For me, it was Software Sales and ironically enough, a “Relationship Manager”. I had been working with very large HR/Payroll provider when I got contacted by a recruiting agency wanting me to talk to me about a position they were trying to fill.

We all have the capacity to love. After all, is it part of what binds us together and is part of our humanity. However, as a student of transformation and what it truly means to be human, I recently discovered that I’d been holding back both giving love as well as receiving it.

So it’s almost midnight when I land at the New Jersey airport after being in Connecticut all day for a conference. I’m really tired and looking forward to getting to my hotel. I plop myself down on a bench while I wait for my Uber driver to arrive. My hotel was quite far from the airport, and just as we pull into the hotel, I get a phone call from the airport. The lady tells me that I left my purse there. Outside. On the bench!! I must have dropped it while sitting waiting for the Uber driver. Obviously the first thing I thought about was if my passport was still there.